A woman's sexual desire cannot be negotiated.
In the last article, I outlined the pathetic reality of the modern feminized husband. Weak, soft, rocking a skinny fat "dad bod." Not making a decision, letting his wife run things and run all over him.
This "modern husband" (i.e., Complete douchebag) finds himself in a situation where his wife's sexual desire for him disappears.
Often neither one of them understands why.
The husband, desperate to do whatever is necessary to reinvigorate his wife's sexual passion for him, will resort to attempting to gain it back through negotiation.
This is the male natural response to problems. We rely heavily on our logical nature when faced with difficulty.
In his book, The Rational Male, Rollo Tomassi describes the man's logical thought processes of attempting to negotiate his wife's sexual desires for him like this (paraphrased):
I desire sex with my wife -> only my wife...
She won't want you if no one else does.
A man needs to be masculine. To some, this may seem obvious...
...But with the plethora of feminized men today, we simply cannot take this for granted.
And no one benefits more from a man embracing his masculinity than his wife.
A wife benefits from her husband's abilities to lead, project physical strength, apply sound logic, and reproduce via sexual intimacy.
The husband receives benefits, too. In fact, a man's ability to engage in frequent sex with his wife is linked to how closely he's aligned himself with his God-given masculine nature.
In today's feminized culture, what it means to be a man must be nurtured and protected from outside influence. Sadly, most men don't guard their masculinity. Most don't even see the value in doing so. It's sad.
And then there are all the so-called empowered wives out there further advancing the cause by clamoring on and on...
Being nice won't make up for a lack of leadership.
The Mendoza Line is an expression in baseball deriving from the name of shortstop Mario Mendoza, whose poor batting average is taken to define the threshold of incompetent hitting.
The cutoff point is most often said to be .200 (although Mendoza's career average was .215) and, when a position player's batting average falls below that level, the player is said to be "below the Mendoza Line."
This is often thought of as the offensive threshold below which a player's presence on a Major League Baseball team cannot be justified, regardless of his defensive abilities.
The term is used in other contexts when one is so incompetent in one key skill that other skills cannot compensate for that deficiency.
...It's like the cutoff where you suck so bad at something that your skills in other areas simply do not matter.
This is a newsletter about men becoming better more whole and happy so...
How do you like the idea of never having to chase a woman again? Never again having to be worried or neurotic about whether she's responding to what you're saying or doing?
Sounds good, doesn't it?
The most common question that comes up when I tell guys they are not going to chase women is something like this:
"How am I supposed to get a woman if I don't CHASE them?! It's not going to just magically happen, DK. I'm not going to sit in the damn lotus position, meditate, chant and have her drop out of the sky on my lap!"
Yes, that's true.
I'll never ask you to stop your healthy pursuit of great relationships and healthy sheet ripping sweat-inducing sex with women.
What I'm asking is for you to stop the needy pursuit of their acceptance and approval.
That's what screwing up your feeling state and making life hell. Nothing else.
I am in 100% support of healthy, happy and confident men pursuing their desire for healthy,...
I've been saying it for years:
Feminism sucks. It just plain sucks.
And guess who it's most significant victims are?
Women. All of them. I'm pretty sure that the "liberation" of women was the greatest hustle ever pulled on them.
And New York Times Bestselling author Suzanne Venker agrees with me.
You have to listen to the interview that my friend Andre recently did with her at the top of the page.
Suzanne teaches women how to succeed with men in life and in love by rejecting the concept of sexual equality and embracing human nature instead.
She markets herself as The Feminist Fixer.
Because she helps fix what feminists have broken: the relationship between women and men.
I absolutely love what this woman is doing and will continue to encourage women to follow her work and read her books.
Suzanne Venker stems from a long line of women trailblazers and activists, a group that's typically associated with feminist thinkers. But the women in...
I was recently featured on the Better Dating And Relationships Podcast with two good friends of mine, Matt and Anna.
I first met Matt and Anna when I was training to be a Higher Game Mastery Circles Coach. Anna and I got to talking and realized that we are doing the same kind of work.
The two of them are partners both in their coaching and personal life. They discovered early on that they both had a very similar life outlook as well as the goal and drive to help others through coaching.
Since then, they have used their combined knowledge and experiences to help their clients learn how to become successful in dating and relationships as well as living an inspired and purpose driven life.
You can check their website out here:
Their Better Dating and Relationships Podcast is where they seek to bring the discussions they always enjoyed in private out onto an open forum to help share their expertise and inspire others to reach...
I was recently recording a podcast with my dear friends Matt and Anna. They're kind of a dynamic duo of dating coaching, and we are all involved in The Higher Game Mastery Circles (something will tell you guys about soon..).
They took a look at The Alpha Shift and got really interested in what I do.
Matt and Anna, Andre Paradis (remember my podcast with him?) and I all met in the Mastery Circle program, and we all do similar work.
I find that interesting.
It's like a calling. A great gestalt and it's in the air.
During this podcast we recorded, Anna asked me an interesting question regarding the Alpha Shift and the work I'm doing with men.
She asked, "David, what is an Alpha Male?"
I told her that it was an excellent question. In fact, I think it's so important, I'm going to put a page on the website giving the explanation.
You see, a lot of people have different ideas of what an Alpha Male is, and so it's high time I gave you mine.
Firstly, the scientific community defines...
In this newsletter, I hit you with a lot of hard truths that you have to face to become stronger.
It's true you have to know the score in life. You have to acknowledge conditions and acknowledge the person that you are.
You have to tell the TRUTH.
But a wise man once told me that once you tell the truth, the truth starts to change. For the better.
If you're a dishonest liar and you say out loud to the world and yourself, "I'm a liar" you just told the damn truth. And the truth that you're a liar begins to change.
The truth here is that your life is not what you had hoped for. YOU are not what you had hoped for.
Hey man, that's fine. That's why you read newsletters like this.
This world is full of men (and women) who are living their lives by default. They're not in control and miserable.
They look at their circumstances, don't believe they can change them, and start to make excuses and rationalizations.
That was once me. Not anymore.
Everything I create is on purpose. I have...
Oh, life in the modern world...
It's almost like there's a vast conspiracy to feminize men, and we've all felt the effects.
Now they're calling masculinity itself toxic.
Let me dispel that right now:
It's not. Don't buy the lie.
I'm hereby giving you permission to roar once in a while. Operate with the approval of no one.
Watch Fight Club. Once a week. For a year.
Remember who you are.
Everyone hears inspirational quotes and sees memes on their social media about "you are enough" and "learning to love yourself" and without context often the words are just words, meaningless platitudes.
Let me give you some context for loving yourself and being enough:
You can't be afraid to lose her (whoever she is).
She can be your wife, your girlfriend, the girl down the street that you pine for from afar.
"She" can be your dream job, money in the bank or something truly priceless and precious beyond words (Like a 2019 Camaro ZL1).
The capacity to let go is what outcome independence is...
A woman isn't a band-aid.
A good relationship with a high caliber woman is a bonus, an add-on to an already awesome life.
That's the only way relationships and marriages can really succeed over time.
We forget that as time goes on and make our wives the center of our existence. When that happens, we lose the essence of what made us attractive in the beginning.
...And we wonder why attraction fades over time.
I see it all the time in both perpetually single guys and guys who are recently divorced or out of a long term relationship....
They make it their chief aim in life to get a woman because they think SHE (whoever the hell she ends up being) will make them happy. Will cure the loneliness. Will make it all better just like mommy did when they were a kid.
The woman is essentially a band-aid for a broken existence.
That's frighteningly co-dependent and frighteningly COMMON.
If you've got out-points and problems in your personality and in your life, the presence of a woman...
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