I'm always asking guys what their number one pain is, either in dating success or in their current ongoing relationship.
I guess it's only fair that I share with you MY greatest pain.
The long game.
You see, I'm in a long-term relationship - going on 5 and a half years.
It's kind of my unofficial second marriage.
I established this relationship by being dominant, acting like a man, making decisions, opening doors, taking control in the bedroom and hanging back, making absolutely certain her want for me was greater than my want for her.
That, by the way, is the proper balance in any relationship between a man and a woman.
The challenge is that, after that much time together and living together for 2 and a half years, she's sees me. All of me. The good. The bad. The ugly.
They say familiarity breeds contempt.
It takes constant vigilance to keep the sexual tension alive - to remember its importance.
It takes constant vigilance to be present and LISTEN. And to...
There's a DEADLY TRAP that rapidly lowers a woman's attraction for you...
Have you ever gotten needy with a girl?
This is a hypothetical question.
I have yet to meet a guy, I don't care how badass he is, who at one time or another, hasn't lost his power and gotten needy with some girl.
I know I did.
Well, today, my smart friend, I'd like to share with you an insight into the female psyche that may just eradicate any last neediness you still have around really attractive women, by teaching you the truth about this "trap."
With no neediness coming from you, just presence, power, and indifference (indifference to her approval, not indifference to her), she almost has no choice but to FEEL ATTRACTION for you as you interact with her and others.
Your challenge will never be about overcoming anything with her.
It's all about YOU. Your challenge is to master your own emotional state. And it's HARD.
Tell me if this sounds familiar:
Things are going great....
Dudes are seriously backward today.
Women and society have told us they want us to be sensitive, evolved and emotional.
And, God bless em, they're not lying. They really do believe they want that.
Especially when they have fallen for narcissistic bad boys and been shit on.
But they really have no idea what drives them emotionally or biologically.
Which is why they fall for narcissistic bad boys and get shit on!
Women want powerful, effective men.
Supplicating nice guys project weakness and approval seeking.
The bad boy can at least imitate strength and power.
The key to having strength and power is being dedicated to your own mission.
This is attractive. And it's how you want to be anyway.
I've written before about the old pickup artist Roissy and his 16 Commandments of Poon.
What I didn't realize was that many of them came from what was clearly Roissy's study of David Deida, author of "Way Of The Superior Man."
(If you haven't read that book, read it.)
Hey it's David,
First an apology for falling off the map for a while - it seems I have a hard time walking and chewing bubble gum at the same time.
I've been busy with contract work and have been really shitty with time management lately.
First things first, the name change:
We are no longer the Red Pill Club, we are now The Alpha Shift.
The new name really embodies what we are trying to do here, which is to make every man a more powerful and dominant version of himself. A leader. A man who embraces alpha male qualities.
While we do embrace reality and "the red pill" I do not want to have the name associated with it, particularly certain subreddits that are particularly nasty and vitriolic.
The course is in full swing. It'll give you a thorough background on what we mean by alpha and beta male traits (and why you need both). I'll talk about being a real man, what is attractive, how a woman's animal brain works and what you've been doing to turn her off.
First, this video is an update, we've got alot of things going on. The course is coming.
Secondly - I've got a personal update.
The truth is - no-one is immune from the dificulties that go on in a long term relationship with a woman.
They are really all very similar. The rules all apply.
Watch the video to find out what I'm resolving in my life and why.
Even I have to remain ever vigilant.
Let me know what you think in the comments below...
When I was going through my divorce about ten years ago, and I was so fucking angry at everything, including every woman on the planet, I felt like wanted to send a pulse wave out of my brain, and fucking vaporize them all.
Kind of like Thanos in "Avengers: Infinity War." What I would not give to get my hands on that gauntlet.
I know this all sounds morbid, but I'm a huge advocate of bottom line honestly.
You'll be glad to know that I did work through the stages of grief all those years ago and my anti-social tendencies were just passing stormy emotions.
During that time I found a lot of great teachers that started moving me to my "red-pilling," and one of the most poignant was a pick-up artist blogger who, back then, went by the name Roissy.
Today he's known as Chateau Heartiste and continues to maintain his blog of the same name.
He came out with the greatest short-form relationship advice for men that I have ever seen.
In this video I discuss hypergamy, womens desire to have as much sex as they can, and to take in as much seed as they can.
In modern times we have set female sexuality rampantly free.
It's out of fucking control.
Check out the video and leave me a comment and let me know what you think.
There are certain subjects where, as a society, we simply don't get it.
Guns, for instance.
Every time some disturbed kid goes on a shooting rampage a large part of the American populace goes into this fantasy world of if we could only get rid of all guns we would be safe.
Can't get rid of guns.
That still wouldn't make you safe from all the fucking BAT-SHIT CRAZY people out there!
Here's another one:
The boy crisis.
Men continue to feel marginalized and while some people like to simply yell "man up," it's not that simple...
...Look at this debacle in Toronto on Monday.
For those who don't know:
25-year-old Alek Minassian plowed his van into crowds of pedestrians in downtown Toronto.
Ten were killed, and 15 were injured.
He was a socially awkward, "involuntarily celibate" obsessed with Santa Barbara shooter Elliott Rodger.
Minassian was furious at constantly being sexually rejected by women.
Hey it's David,
Most guys are making their best efforts to be good, to be morally sound and righteous.
We were all brought up to be considerate of others, particularly the fairer sex, and not to be selfish.
Many of us are "nice guys."
We learned to adapt to expectations of others to avoid being subject to criticism. To not step on any toes.
With very little effort we were shaped by our environment because we were afraid of rejection, afraid of losing the love and protection of our parents and peers.
So out of fear we lost ourselves... and this had disastrous consequences.
When we let ourselves down and compromise, we lose our authenticity and flow: our most attractive characteristics.
In essence, we lost our manhood.
Some of us noticed our loss. We saw how other men who didn't compromise and didn't mind stepping on toes got the success, the girl, the fun and the respect of others.
We felt cheated.
So we went...
Hey it's David,
You have a moral imperative to make your wife (or girlfriend) jealous. Or as a good friend of mine once said, "fuck with her head."
Surviving in nature is ruthless and cruel.
By the way, before I continue:
My purpose with these posts is NEVER to depress you. Only to show you unfiltered reality.
It's called being red-pilled. And yes it's profoundly painful at first.
But in time it will give you real power and real choice in your life. You will have a rudder - a true north.
It's worth it.
Now back to ruthlessness and cruelty:
The hardest game in the world is being married.
If you intend to stay with one woman you need to be ready to play to win.
And you need to be ready to walk if your values are violated, or you line crossed.
In my last post, I went over some sobering statistics about marriage and monogamy.
Read that if you haven't yet.
The institution of marriage itself sets a man up to ultimately fail sexually with...
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