Why did some guys succeed with women without even trying while other guys fail with women no matter how hard they try?
Hey, it's David.
Why does it seem like the arrogant jerks succeed, and the nice guys always fail?
"Because you're a wimp!" the jerk might tell the nice guy.
And a lot of lazy nice guys like to say, "But I am myself. I will never change for anybody."
When you are confident, outcome independent, and women fall all over you; then you get to say you won't change.
But if you are a pathetic wimp going through life frustrated, I'm going to suggest change is needed.
You see, sweet nice guys, act desperate.
Think about it:
Why would he act as if the women were better than he? Why should he win her, let her win him! Why buy her gifts?
Let her buy him gifts!
So let's say our nice guy gets wise and adopts that mindset...
This new attitude got him all the dates and positive attention from the women that he wanted.
He remembered the past voices in his head:
What did they say? Let us hear them: "You do not have muscles. What makes you think you can get hot women?"
"You are not that smart. Why do you think you can get the pick of the group?" "You do not have a high paying job! Why do you think you deserve a hottie?"
And the loudest, most annoying voice: "You are not as cute or handsome as the other guys. Therefore, you do not deserve a hot chick."
Alas! He knew he was not Prince Charming, so he did not act like one. But now he realized that Prince Charming is not the producer of the confidant thought; to the contrary, the confident thought is the producer of the Prince Charming.
"That is the secret," he said during his revelation. For...
"As you think, you shall become."
"And so long as you think, so long you remain free."
"But DK, What are you, a self-improvement guru? Where is the woman in this?"
And I say to you, "Women come and go, but YOU are forever. The focus must be on you. What do YOU want in a girl? What do YOU want to do for a date? What type of relationship are YOU looking for? It is a machine for the ONE. You push the button, and out she comes."
"But DK, What if she does not like your date ideas? What if she is different from what you are looking for?"
"Then she is not for you! The thing girls hate is when you cannot have a date idea (which happens to guys because they want to please her without thinking of themselves). You have a series of hobbies and tastes. If she likes your date ideas, then that is good. If she doesn't, then go get another girl. There are billions out there."
"But... that is... rejection!"
"Only if you place the focus on the woman. If you do that, then you actually believe it is women who are making the choice, not you. There is no rejection; you are merely finding out if she has good taste. After all, she is looking for a guy that fits her interests and tastes. If she doesn't like you for whatever reason, let her! And thank her for doing so!"
"Which would you prefer, a woman who collapses her own interests for the sakes of yours merely to have a boyfriend or a woman who likes you because of you!?"
"Because of our tastes, our compatibility, runs parallel!"
"Indeed! Now think back to your Nice Guy days, those suffering days of endless agreement and non-confrontation. What service did you do to help find compatibility?"
"Alas, no!" The young man's face turned white as he realized the utter disgust he was in his old ways. "I am so ashamed!"
"You're not the only one. Look into the valley! Look at how Man has fallen!"
And the young man looked into the valley. There he saw hordes of Nice Guys throwing themselves toward an idol, the golden woman statue. Flowers, chocolate, bad poetry, and declarations of love were all tossed at the statue. Thunder then exploded.
Then, out of nowhere in graceful light and melodies of enchanted harps appeared Captain Alpha.
"What is he doing here?" mutters DK. "This was not scheduled in this email."
[Note: Captain Alpha is a supernatural being and can appear in any email or blogpost whenever he wishes!]
"Captain Alpha, what do you have for us today?"
Captain Alpha looked at the valley of nice guys throwing themselves at the woman idol, shook his head, and turned back to DK and the young man. He held up a stone tablet with ten commandments on it.
It read as follows:
You cannot be yourself without truthfully seeing yourself.
You cannot sacrifice character for joyfulness without ultimately destroying happiness.
You cannot control the situation, but you can control yourself, your emotions, and your life.
You cannot have women love you until you love yourself.
You cannot grasp the female nature until you grasp your male nature.
You cannot win her until you focus on her winning you.
You cannot fully know the principles of this website until you leave it.
You cannot obtain love by giving yours away for free.
You cannot fulfill your desire by letting it trump your integrity.
You cannot be yourself by denying your dreams and what it takes to achieve them.
PS - It takes training discipline and support to reprogram yourself to see your value as a king.
Pedestalizing women is a narcotic level addiction. Be patient with yourself.
What happened isn't your fault. But it IS your responsibility to make it right.
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