There is a very specific reason that women lose attraction for men.
Have you ever started dating your dream girl? I mean, you hit the home run this time. She's beautiful and cool. Sexy and yet down to earth. She even bought you that Mike Trout rookie card for your birthday that you really wanted.
She starts backing off. At first, it's just a little and then more and more. And then the talk. I need space. We need some time apart. I need to figure myself out.
Here's an email I recieved from a young kid named Josh whow just went through this:
My girlfriend and I are taking space from each other right now, and I would love to hear some words of advice and your opinion on our matter.
We have been together for a year and a half now, and we go to the same University. We see each other a lot, (after talking about it, I came to realize it was too much), and we were very loving, caring, and affectionate until recently.
A month ago, she got very busy with her preparations for a competition she has now come back from. During this time, she asked for some time to focus and that we text less.
A month ago, she got very busy with her preparations for a competition she has now come back from. During this time, she asked for some time to focus and that we text less. It turns out I had put too much pressure on her during these weeks. When she came back from her week-long competition abroad, she was different. She felt that we spend too much time together, and if she were busy, she would feel guilty that she couldn't give me the attention I wanted, which also pressured her.
When she came back from her week-long competition abroad, she was different. She felt that we spend too much time together, and if she were busy, she would feel guilty that she couldn't give me the attention I wanted, which also pressured her.
So, in other words, you started displaying signs that you cared more about her than she did about you. You were behaving in a way that communicated you had more to lose if a breakup happened or things went sideways, right?
Your woman wants you to be okay when you have not heard from her. She doesn't want you fucking freaking out and thinking the world's coming to an end when she hasn't gotten back to you in a short period of time or hasn't been seeing you as much as you would have liked.
You're looking to your girlfriend to be the reason why you're happy, and your life is good. Your whole identity is wrapped up in your relationship with her.
This is co-dependent, and it's rampant in a generation of men raised by single mothers and or in a society that exalts all things feminine and makes masscult toxic.
Therefore, if you're potentially going to lose that relationship, "Oh my god, I have to do something about this to stop it." This is typically what guys do. They think they have to do something to fix things. And it's your doing things, your overdoing things, your over-pursuing and acting needy and unworthy that caused her to doubt whether she wants to be with you.
Trust me. I've done it myself. Many times.
This is the reason that women leave men, 99% of the time!
She has completely lost attraction, and it's just because you're not acting masculine.
You're acting very feminine and unsure of yourself. She's a feminine woman that was in a relationship with a masculine dude, and now that you're not acting masculine, she's not sure. So the quickest way for you to turn things around is for you to go back to acting like the dude you were before - focusing on your studies and hanging out with your friends.
(In this case, the kid was young, so he's in school, but whatever age you are, get back to your mission! Get back to pursuing your goals. SHE can't ever be your goal.)
When a woman tells you she needs space, you give it to her. "Get in touch with me when you get a chance," "Get in touch with me when you miss me," or "Call me when you get caught up on all those things, and we'll get together then." You have to be okay with her going off and doing things. The ideal situation, in a healthy relationship, when your girl gets wrapped up in other things, in your mind, you should be thinking, "That's awesome. I can catch up with my buddies, I can have a guy's night out, I can clean out the garage, I can work on my car, I can get caught up on my homework, I can go to the gym, I can go see my parents," and you're excited. Then you go about your business, and in a day or two when you haven't heard from your girlfriend, it shouldn't bother you.
Then all of a sudden, she'll reach out to you and say, "Hey, I've been busy. I haven't heard from you. It kind of seems like you don't miss me at all." Then you say, "Well, of course, I miss you baby. Why don't you come over here, and let's hang out? I will show you how much I missed you." Ideally, you want her wondering whether or not you missed her, but instead, you're acting the opposite.
The sexual polarity is completely REVERSED.
She felt like she was your human pacifier. She was there to soothe your insecure feelings. It turned her off, and she wanted to be around you less.
How could a guy like that protect her when he's coming unglued because he hadn't had enough time with her?
When you act feminine like that, the attraction dissolves quickly. And as soon as you start acting masculine again, it'll come right back.
(Note: He's currently taking a break and going no contact, I'll keep you guys updated.)
The energy of neediness is so prevalent in men today.
The other big problem I see is choosing a quality woman. That is getting harder and harder with hardcore third wave feminism. It's becoming harder and harder for men to get into serious relationships and get married.
I intend to do a series on selecting a good partner. But for now, smash your neediness. It's killing you.
PS - OK, if you want to go in depth on why this happens to us and what you can start to do today, I would encourage you to join me here and catch this short video which goes into much more depth.
Join our mailing list to receive the latest news and updates from our team.
Don't worry, your information will not be shared.
Get the latest content and news, and and special members only offers.
Be the first to find out about about new training, products and opportunities to turn you life around and kick ass!