Have you ever had a conversation like this:
You: Hey man, I have 3 tickets for the playoff game this Saturday at 1 pm. I want you to take the 3rd ticket and come with Bill and I. I'm driving and can pick you up at 11 am. It's going to be a blast. Do you want to join us?
Wishy-Washy Friend: "Umm...yeah...that sounds pretty good...I think...umm, thanks...I mean...that should probably work...I guess...lemme see...umm...yeah."
Hey, it's David.
What's my point with this?
Don't be that wishy-washy friend. Nobody likes that guy. Nobody.
I'm not talking about being uncertain when someone asks, Do you know the surface temperature of the sun?
If you don't know something, then saying NO is the perfect answer.
This newsletter is about the uncertain, indecisive, tentative, noncommittal, action averse energy of a wishy-washy man.
Why does it matter?
1. It is holding you back. Being wishy-washy has a poisonous effect on your mind and your sense of personal power. It's based on fear and insecurity, which will ruin your life and your relationships. It's a voluntary choice to become a 2nd Class citizen in your own life. And that will cause you to continually feel like you're on your heels without a compass, walking on eggshells and moving in slow motion. And that's bad for you.
2. It negatively affects all of your relationships. All of them. Others will feel they can't count on you. They will feel like they are left hanging. They will get frustrated by always taking the lead and watching you back away from commitment. They will question what value you bring into their lives. And as if we need more motivation, wishy-washiness is one of the biggest sexual turn-offs in the world. So...there's that.
Tragically, many people have this faithless, wishy-washy mindset, which causes them to lose the battle in their minds before they ever fight it in the world. ~ Craig Groeschel
I have no idea who Craig Groeschel is. I just like the quote.
There are dozens of books, courses, coaches, and teachers out there saying the same crap.
I want to say it differently for you in this email. I want you to hear it in a way that might actually cause a shift in your THINKING and, therefore, how you FEEL about being wishy-washy. Only then will you actually DO something different...maybe as early as this weekend.
And when you do...it will feel amazing.
Hell YES vs. Hell NO
The answer is hell yes or hell no. Fuck maybe.
If you want to feel better about yourself...more confident...more engaged...more empowered and more attractive in your OWN eyes, then you must start finding your Hell YES's more quickly.
Stay out of the HELL MAYBE zone. Nothing good happens there. Become more aware of your energy and your thoughts when making a decision or considering a question. Find that part of you that has a clear, non-negotiable opinion or desire. Follow your gut and go for it!
You must also identify your Hell NO's more quickly. It takes courage to look someone in the eye and say, No, thank you. I spent a large part of my life saying, Umm...you know, I'm not sure I (blah, blah) only to find myself getting talked into things I DIDN'T WANT TO DO!
My challenge to you this week is COACH YOURSELF every time you're faced with a decision.
Are you going to be a "Hell YES" and go all in?
Or are you going to declare yourself a "Hell NO"?
I think you'll be amazed at how liberating it feels when you make your first declarations...even it's for just making your bed or declining a dinner invitation!
Whenever you're ready, here are three ways I can kick start your badassery and help you transform into the guy you always wanted to be...
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